My wife and I have a perfect marriage. Okay, I’m lying. We do have a great marriage though. For 35 years, we have managed to love and like each other. We’ve worked side by side for many of those years always with a single goal. That goal was to seek the Lord and his will for us. We have always sought his guidance and trusted him for the outcome. Well, maybe always is a little exaggerated, but we’ve done our best to trust him.
I really believe that our success in marriage stems from our commitment. The commitment I’m talking about came from before we met. In August of 1980, we both surrendered our lives to the Lord and committed to serve him. Bonnie sat down on a piano bench, and I sat on a rock. We both asked the Lord to take over our lives. Speaking for myself, I’d made such a mess of things I realized that I couldn’t do life without Him. On the last day of November in 1980, we met. From that day, it was a whirlwind of events that led to our marriage in April of 1981.
I had asked God for a wife, and I knew that Bonnie was his answer to that prayer. And she was sure that I was the man God had sent to her. This assurance, combined with our faith, has carried us through the years. One of our early discoveries was that we both believed God had called us to love and care for children. He has guided us to do just that. What an amazing life he has given us. There is no greater existence on the earth than a life with purpose fulfilled. We have shared that life.
This is what I’ve learned. Marriage is a partnership of strength. It is a central point from which to radiate outward for the good of others. In the process the relationship is strengthened and both partners become more of who they were created to be. We are happy people in a happy marriage because we allowed God to lead us.